So here we are, in the midst of injustice, pandemics and unfulfilled dreams. Many of us had projects planed this year, plans to grow, expand, explore and then Life happened… raise your hand if „Life“ ever happened to you✋🏾— yeah, that’s what I thought. You know, the first thing I learned about „feeling lost“ is, it often results out of 3 things, unfulfilled expectations, wrong perspective and the lack of taking responsibility. Maybe you think you should have been married by now, sitting in your new bought house and watching your first born sleep. Some of us bet everything we had on one person, just to realise that, that person was the biggest mistake we had ever made. Some of us thought life owed us much more than we have right now.
Its not that you are necessarily wrong about those hings, but does being right about those things brought you any further?
Whenever it is a rainy, cold October in my soul; and especially whenever my anxiety or anger gets such an upper hand of me, that it requires a strong divine power to prevent me from stepping into the street, and methodically knocking people’s hats off—then, I account it high time to take a step back, shut down every voices around me and get down on my knees to pray.
You know what really kills you in Life ? its making plans for the next decade of your life, thinking the Job you decide to do now has to be done forever, thinking that there won’t be better days coming, thinking you don’t have the power to change the things you want to change. Thinking things happen or don’t happen according to your deservance. That’s not Life, Life is unfair to everybody at one point, you just have to stand up, search for another Exit and keep it moving, but that’s the Problem, we do not take actions into our own hands, always wishing for someone to safe us or do the work required, for us.
Worrying does nothing but take time, there is a season for everything, my season ain’t yours, and yours ain’t mine, so it would be stupid of me comparing my Life to yours, that’s the change of perspective we need. Sometimes we get so caught up in races that other people are running, that we want to get on other peoples tracks, the problem with that is that at the end, two can’t be winners, the one losing will definitely be you.
You can’t win at being someone else, never.
You also can’t force someone to Love you, so why not wait till someone actually does, or appreciate the one who do? why are we so impatient ?
It’s when I truly come to my senses, that I see how valuable Life actually is, how little the things are that strip us away from the things that really matter. Even if we endure hardship or nothing seems to work, lets be aware of the fact that we are still breathing and as long as this fact is valid, EVERYTHING CAN CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.
There is a time for everything, a time to moan and a time to celebrate, a time to shed tears and a time to be joyful, a time to destroy and a time to build. I just want you to see that there is so much power in your hands dear, and please stop comparing and procrastinating, each day has its own struggles and blessingS, don’t bring tomorrows struggle into today, or today’s fears to tomorrow, are you really sure its as bad as you make it out to be right now?
What makes you happy, you know sometimes you have to force yourself to be happy. If you know going for a walk always makes you feel at peace but all you want to do right now is lay in bed and pitty yourself, force yourself to stand up and do what makes you feel better. Don’t give your emotions and body so much power, if you know better, do better, even if yo don’t feel like it. Also find someone you can talk to, speaking about it takes the power from it, and very often you’ll see that you were just to much in your head.
Also be intentional about the things you say, I can do this, it will work, i’m scared but I’m going to try it anyways, failure is a step towards success, I’m bold, shit happens but it won’t hinder me from being a joyful person, this really hurt me, but it won’t knock me down. Life is good and I actually do have time. I’m breathing and that in itself is a miracle.
If you feel lost, relocate.
Find yourself a new destination. I wanted to have kids by now but I don’t have any, so my new goal for now is spoiling myself for myself, or getting fit and healthy or getting a promotion at my job or travelling for 6 months or enjoying alone time with my partner, or choosing a new career path or investing in something new.
If you feel Lost, refocus.
Also I found that making short time goals you can focus on, bring more results than aiming for the long term goals every single day.
Get comfortable with smalls wins.